Friday, May 04, 2007

Pretty Is To Dirty As Hot Is To [Blank]

Well, they claim their blog was conceived the very night we hosted
Virgin Erotica Editor Adam Nevill righ'tchyeah at RBtheBlog, but nobody's actually asked for paternity tests or anything.

If you remember, many of Adam "The Fox in the Henhouse" Nevill's Black Lace and Cheek authors showed up all day long -- on London time -- to talk erotica, erotic romance and managed to drag the discussion right into the intellectual stratosphere.

Cause not only are these women great writers of all things -- and I mean all things -- erotic, they're smart as hell and have managed to package one of the coolest, wickedest, and funniest blogs going,

Many of them still hop by here often, including Bellas Kate Pearce and Wendy/Portia DaCosta, and

Monday, May 7, the LustBiters join us and -- thank God in heaven -- answer the question that seems by turns to piss off and turn coy usually reasonable romance authors.

Three cheers for dirty British girls and the editor who encourages them.

Well, the LustBiters are very kind and flattering in calling me their blogging "godmother," because their experience here with you Bellas inspired LustBites. And it's always lovely to feel as though one has done a good turn for someone else, isn't it?

So, I want you to celebrate today -- cause it's fun to feel good on TGIF -- the good things you bring to life. What's the most recent nice thing you've done for someone else?

Could be just loaning a stapler, or dressing the kids so your husband could sleep in. Tell us about it, and take a sec to feel good about yourself. You deserve it, in the same way you deserve hot, wet men, or as the LustBiters prefer, pretty, dirty boys. Anyone have a facecloth? I think Marcus here's missed a spot...


Encore! Grazie, Bronwyn Clarke, for visiting yesterday, and for the great work you're doing to help define romance for the "literary" world by examining online romance communities. We'll be sure to keep checking out your progress at
Encore due! lis, you've won a 6-pack of romance! Please send me your snail mail at
Encore tre!
Portia Da Costa writes this morning: ps. not *all* the Lustbiters prefer pretty dirty boys... ;) Some of us much prefer big, beefy grown up and sophisticated men in sharp suits!
Em, Portia, do you mean like, zeeeeesss?


Stacia said...

The most recent nice thing that I did? Let's see. I helped our mail lady at work carry in an especially large bundle of mail yesterday and I left my waitress an especially large tip because I saw another customer treating her badly and thought she needed a little something to make her day.

Julie in Ohio said...

Good Mornin', Bellas!!!!

We are having the first gorgeous day of the year. With any luck the boss will let us out early. *fingers crossed*

As a rule if I see someone in need of help, I help.
As Stacia mentioned, I too give waitresses a little more for a tip. I've never been a one but I know that they have a hard job and usually manage to keep a smile on their face.
I helped unjam the fax machine yesterday when someone put too much paper in it.

Ev-- OUCH!!! Pulling stitches is bad. (says Miss States-The-Obvious) I hope that thing heals quickly. I'm sending healing vibes your way. I don't think the cyber soup will work in this case. Maybe some cyber 'ritas. Enough that you're not feeling any pain. ;)
{{{BIG HUGS}}}

Anonymous said...

Buongiorno, Bellas and Michelle!

Lemme see, a nice thing? I spent the weekend, and Monday and Tuesday, helping a friend (single mom, three teens *shudder*) clean her house, paint her son's room, move furniture all around, hang ceiling fans, and install a light fixture in her bathroom.

Kati said...

Huh. I posted a whole thing, and it's not showing up.

Weird. Well first I'll say, holy non-worksafe piccy, Michelle! He certainly falls into the "Hot and Wet" category.

SIGH - I'm bummed my whole thing didn't come out. OK, my family participates every year in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life. (Which is an awesome event, if you've never done it). Anyway, this year, my sister organized a big yard sale to raise more money for ACS, which I worked. We ended up raising $1062. Amazing huh?

flip said...

I am a mom. Dont we do nice things constantly??? Yesterday, I went grocery shopping. Cleaned the icebox and kitchen. Cooked a delicious meal to celebrate my son's birthday. Fixed everyone's plates and brought them to the table.

But I think the nicest thing anyone can do is being happy and upbeat.

Michelle Buonfiglio said...

Mornin, Bellas! It's probably gonna get a little syrupy around here today, but there you have it; I wanna talk about the nice things we do every day that don't get recognized. And I know we don't do them for the thanks, but it's nice to feel appreciated.

Not sure where the question came from, but perhaps it has something to do with feeling oh, so deliciously dirty scamming on the pic of young, pretty Marcus. Felt like I needed to balance the Catholic karma, I guess.

Stacia and Jules, I feel the same way about tipping servers, cause I've done the job, too. Nice that you reach out cause you want to make up for the creeps who are mean to them.

aztecL, that's awesome! Sheesh, hard work and teenagers, too? You're a good friend.

MK, that's awesome. Did you drag over a big ol box of romance novels to sell? And I can't take cred for the pic, it's from the LustBites girls. I'd come across it a while back elsewhere, but thought it too racy for us. But, in honor of the LB visit, it only made sense. So it was a lovely gesture on my part, don't you think?

Kati said...

Yes, Michelle, you are a giver! Yeah, I sold about 100 romance novels. Cracked me up, since my sister was like, "Maybe we should sell them by the bagful." I told her that alot of the titles were good ones and that she'd make more selling them individually. Sure enough, we sold all but about 10. Pretty good, huh?

Portia Da Costa said...

Wow, Michelle, I'm honoured to be called a 'Bella'! You've done a nice thing for *me* there... aw... I'm smiling and glowing.

But trying to think of a nice thing *I've* done has me puffing out my cheeks. Oh dear, I don't think I'm a very nice person, as nothing springs quickly to mind.

Wait, there is one... I was ordering some stuff for myself at Amazon the other week, and saw copies of 'Band of Brothers' on special, and I popped one in my basket for himself [my dh, who's a WW2 history nut]... Is that nice enough? I swear I wasn't trying to score brownie points! :)

Portia Da Costa said...

ps. not *all* the Lustbiters prefer pretty dirty boys... ;)

Some of us much prefer big, beefy grown up and sophisticated men in sharp suits!

Playground Monitor said...

I kept my little granddaughter last weekend so the kids could go to the beach with a group of friends. That doesn't sound like a lot, but the kids only got married about 19 months ago and the baby is 10 months old. You do the math. They got pregnant on the honeymoon and really did not plan to start a family so soon. It's been rough on them. They moved 3 times last year -- the last one was 6 weeks before the baby was born. Then the condo they were sub-letting had mold in the bathroom and the day after the baby was born, the workers came to fix it. Turns out they ripped out the whole bathroom (and it was only a one-bath condo). So they had to move in with her parents for 2 weeks until the bathroom was fixed. But I'm so proud of them because they've stepped up to the challenge of parenthood right on top of matrimony and are wonderful parents.

And I, of course, think I have the most beautiful grandbaby in the world.

And tomorrow's my 34th anniversary. Too bad the DH is going to be out of town and I have a houseguest coming in for my RWA chapter's romance readers' luncheon. Oh well, we'll celebrate next week, which is probably doing a nice thing by not making a fuss about celebrating on the exact day.

Michelle Buonfiglio said...

Hey, Play! Happy Anny! That isn't just nice of you not to make a big out of the celebration, it's downright saintly. Me? I'd be all, "oh, no, it's fine, no problem." Then I'd mope anyway.

I'll bet any time you give those kids time off for themselves is incredibly appreciated. And,yes, I believe she is one of the most beautiful grandbabies ever. :)

There, Portia. Don't say we never did nothin for ya. I guess this counts for my nice thing today, though Vincenzo here ain't to rough on the eyes. Gesu christo. But I still think he looked kinda hot in Men in Black... "I'm looking for a cat. It's very dear to me..."

And I loved Band of Brothers, thought it was remarkable.

Awesome, flip! My kids would think every day was their birthday if I managed to put a delicious meal on the table. But you go the whole nine yards. Good on you!!! But you're really right, some might think it trite or naive, but living life well and happy is courageous and not always easy to do. Great point thought for a Friday. :)

Portia Da Costa said...

Wow, Michelle, that's made my day! I think that's my most favourite piccie of 'Vincenzo' ever... ooh, I shall think of him by that name from this day forth!

Heck, I've gone all fluttery now!

Molto Grazie! Is that right? :)

Michelle Buonfiglio said...

Yes. And prego, WendyPortia.

And, while I'm pretty poor at spelling and often grammar, I do know that I should have spelled "to" with an additional "o" in my last comment. [sheepish apologies to the Grammar Police].

Anonymous said...

Rough on the eyes? *fanning self* Nuhuh!!! *happy sigh*

Michelle, thank you. Being a single mom myself (only two, the oldest off to college this year), I know how there's literally not enough time to do all the things that need to be done to keep a house livable while working and studying and parenting. Others helped me when I needed it, it's my turn.

Grace Tyler said...

My kids would think every day was their birthday if I managed to put a delicious meal on the table.

Here, here! I've made the family suffer so long with take out, that a simple casserole from time to time scores me big points with DH. *wink* I'm no dummy.

I think it's important to remember that we do nice things all the time and try not to take ourselves for granted. Enough other people do that for us. So *patting myself on the back* well done, Mom/Wife/Daughter/Friend.

Monica Burns said...

Morning {{{{Bellas}}}}

I always get embarrassed by this question because my Dad always told me never to toot my own horn, so it makes it hard to come out and say what I've done for others.

I always try to compliment at least two people everyday, whether it's the fact that I think a particular color looks good on them, they have a pretty face, their children are good-looking, whatever. I think it makes people feel good when you pay them a compliment and they tend to spread that good feeling with others they meet during their day. Sort of like spreading the love around. :)


Portia Da Costa said...

Yeah, that is a nice thing to do, Monica... I'm going to try and take notice and pay compliments a bit more. I know how fab it feels when somebody compliments me on something...



kim h said...

hot man
wtg liz

Unknown said...

What have I done recently that was nice? Hmmm...I've managed not to murder my 4 kids (including 3 teenage boys) I didn't shout at son #1 when he 'forgot' to recharge his phone and left us all wondering where he was at 11 pm last night, and-I haven't said a cross word to dear Mr Kate despite the fact that he's been away on business so often this last month that I barely recognize him.
I am a saint indeed...

Looking forward to Monday when we take over the blog!!

Alison Tyler said...

Ooooh, thank you for the lovely intro, Michelle!
I think that was the nicest thing anyone's done lately...


Kristina Lloyd said...

Here's my nice thing for you all: head on over to Lust Bites where we're running a massive giveaway contest. Add your name to the post and you could win a whole load of dirty books! Damn, I mean lots of high quality erotic romance. I must try and get that right for Monday.

Erotic romance, erotic romance ...

Dayle A. Dermatis said...

Thank you for the intro, and we'll see you on Monday! Oh, and not all the Lust Bites ladies are British. At least five of us are from the U.S., I'm pretty sure... So the nice thing is, you can visit us at any time of the day or night, and you'll find someone to exchange comments with! :-)

Michelle Buonfiglio said...

Thanks, Dayle! I have a rough time thinking of Virgin anything as anything but British. I'm showing my age, but it's the old Virgin Airlines commercials that did it to me. I forever imagine a swingin' Richard Branson (wasn't it) back in the 80s talkin about VgnAtlantic.

Mon, that's exactly why I asked this question, cause I want us to pat ourselves on the back for a change.

Kate, I'm w/ you on the traveling thing. My husband's gone a lot, too, and I never toss it back at him. Course, now I travel a bit more and he's got to deal with the at-home. I think anyone who's got teenagers get an automatic good deed for the decade award.

Thank you for clarifying that, Kristina. We run a very classy joint here, and oh, so very rarely do we allow naughty conversation. Goodness gracious, our motto should be, "Why, vanilla is just dandy!"

Hi, Alison! You're welcome.

Hey, Kim!

Anonymous said...

Yesterday, I went to the doc's with my BF's mom. She is afraid of needles, so I let her squeeze my hand (boy she has some grip)

Anonymous said...

Oh look Michelle, you might as well let us stay for the weekend. You've got our lovely Marcus in the shower pic up - that picture attracts the lust biters from miles around - trust me.

There are 16 of us you know. I hope you've got some camp beds ready ( - I have no idea what camp beds might mean in America - ), but is it okay if we just stay over and get ready to party on Monday?

Nice things? I loaned Kristina Lloyd my blue handcuffs to use for the lovely photo for our lovely competition she mentions above. At least that's what she said she wanted them for...

Jennifer Y. said...

Hi everyone! Sorry I haven't been around much lately...been sick and also haven't really felt like myself...but I hope to be more active now. I did manage to read Dark Lover by JR Ward...and WOW! Now y'all don't have to throw things at me...LOL.

Oh, and the last nice thing I did for mom has been sick so I have been helping her out.

Jennifer Y. said...

Oh, and I did start a blog (can access it through my profile)...I am doing nice things for authors and others on there!

Kati said...

Hi Jenn- We've missed you! Sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well lately. I hope you're on the mend, Bella!

tetewa said...

My best friend and her husband go once a year on their annual bowling tournament weekend. I watch her kids for the weekend and house sit. The kids ages range from 16 to 7 years old. I always have a great time with them and usually spend my free time in their hot tub!

Unknown said...

Recent king thing...My kids love to cook but need some direction and I have been busy lately. Last week, I took a day from my other responsibilities since the kids were at home (school holiday) and we did a day of baking. We all had a great time.

ev said...

Julie- I didn't know about the cyber 'ritas, but they must have gotten here anyway. I slept good last night. Right after i finished reading the new (author shall remain nameless) that is coming out on tuesday, at 1:30 this morning. they took pity on me at work and let me borrow it. (Don't tell anyone...)

I had to pass this on- When I stopped in at work yesterday, there was an older man in the romance section picking out books. I had to stop and tell him how nice it was to see him there. He said that romance has some of the best story lines! (either that or he had read all the self-help/sex/erotic stuff). Who cares- there was a man buying romance!!

I try to be nice as much as I can. It puts me in a better mood too- which is maybe why when I ended up in the ER my bp was only 116/70??

I always tip well- been there, done that. DH does the 15%, and when he gets up I leave extra if it is deserved, and it ususally is.

I always (underlined, bold type) treat sales people as nicely as possible. I know how it feels to be on the other side. I can't think of a more thankless job at times. Many people seem to think that dealing with a sales person gives them a free license to be rude, crude and generally socially unacceptable. they seem to think that it means they couldn't get any other job and are scapping the bottom of the barrel. Most everyone I work with is a college grad or going or in my case, I love working in a bookstore. I mean, how many people can actually say they work with their fav thing everyday?? Do people sell insurance as a hobby on their day off? Spend their free time giving pro-bono legal/medical advice?? No wonder I don't want to go to law school. And yeah, I could have. ::steps down off her soap box::

Kati said...

Hey Bellas - More news from the BDB world. Phury's book is called LOVER ENSHRINED.

Julie in Ohio said...

Good Morning, Bellas!!!!!!

I'm so glad the 'ritas reached you, EV. I sent them cyber-express... :o)

As I'm typing this post, I'm being nice to a telemarketer. Talk about a thankless job. As long as the kids aren't screaming, I'll give them a moment of my time.

Julie in Ohio said...

MK-- That was so nice of you to let us know about Phury. :o)
That's an interesting title. I can't wait to hear more about him. Without a doubt, V has me curious and anxious for his story but Phury has a way of pulling at my heart strings. Can't the Warden write any faster?!?!?

AuthorM said...

I don't know if I've done anything kind for anyone in the past week...I've been laid low with some post-con bug!

But I did let my kids play with the hose today!


Stacy~ said...

Grrr. Blogger ate my thoughtful post, leaving me in not such a nice mood LOL.

All I can say is I agree with Monica - I'm rather embarrassed talking myself up....or at least I am when someone asks me to. I think I can do it easily enough without being prompted.

Sorry to hear some of you are not feeling well. I hope you all feel better soon.

MK, I'm reading Kresley Cole's Highlander books - yummy. You are a master at the game of pimpin'.

Stacy~ said...

Oh and there's a pic of me at my blog if anyone's fearless enough to check it out LOL

Kati said...

MK, I'm reading Kresley Cole's Highlander books - yummy. You are a master at the game of pimpin'.

Maybe I should have said that as my nice thing...LOL!

ev said...

Well even with the bandaged finger I managed to clean the garage, put up a small fence and lay down a 8' by 8' patio albiet with some help.

Have I ever mentioned that the brothers who mow my lawn are 21 and 23? I call them (privately) my Wisteria Lane boys. I am a bad girl, I know. Daughter loves to come and flirt with them. Thankfully they both have girlfriends or I would have to lock her up somewhere while they are here. Today they will be over to help me put up a fence.

At least they are cute when they sweat. An old woman can dream. Their dad, (our handyman) however, is single again....

Have a good sunday everyone! I am out to enjoy it!!

Why do I always have to do word verification twice, sometimes 3 times? It's right.

Portia Da Costa said...

This is a bit late, I know... but I have to do verification at least twice too!

Strange that...