Monday, March 12, 2007

Amanda Brice GuestBlog: You Go, Girls!

The "Dreams and Desires" anthology to raise funds for battered women is such an important project -- and Amanda's post and the convo thus far so compelling and sincere -- I'm leaving it up again today. PLEASE: Buy a copy of "Dreams and Desires" at your local bookstore, Amazon, or
You can get more info about the project at
Contest!!! Two LCBs win either an e-book or a hardcover of "Dreams and Desires" courtesy of Freya's Bower Publishing.

It's my pleasure and honor to welcome today Amanda Brice and her fellow "Dreams and Desires" anthology authors. Amanda created the idea of this anthology to raise funds for a battered women's shelter, and her publisher, Marci Baun at Freya's Bower, jumped right on board for a great book and a good cause -- and a very special reason. Please offer Amanda -- and "Dreams and Desires" authors who'll be visiting throughout the day -- a warm Bella buongiorno...

Ciao, Bellas! I’m so happy to be here today. Michelle has graciously invited me and my fellow anthology authors to blog here today about the purpose behind this project.

It took me a while to come up with something to say today, mostly because I wanted it to be fun, yet serious at the same time. Wow, tall order.

Then it hit me. March is National Women’s History Month. A whole month to celebrate famous women throughout history, and how they’ve worked to advance the status of our gender. So please bear with me while I run through some famous firsts by American women.

Virginia Dare
was the first person born in America to English parents, on Roanoke Island, Virginia in 1587.

In 1650,
Anne Bradstreet’s book of poems, The Tenth Muse Lately Sprung Up in America, was published in England, making her the first published American woman writer.

In 1766,
Mary Katherine Goddard and her widowed mother became the first woman publishers in America after taking over the Providence Gazette and the annual West’s Almanack. In 1775, Goddard also became the first woman postmaster in the US, and in 1777 she became the first printer to offer copies of the Declaration of Independence that actually included the signers’ names. Then in 1789, she became the first woman to open a bookstore in America.

In 1849, Elizabeth Blackwell received her M.D. from the Medical Institution of Geneva, N.Y., becoming the first American woman doctor. Fifteen years later, in 1864, Rebecca Lee Crumpler became the first black woman to receive an M.D., from New England Female Medical College.

Arabella Mansfield
was granted admission to practice law in Iowa in 1869, making her the first woman lawyer. In 1870, Ada H. Kepley graduated from Union College of Law in Chicago, making her the first woman lawyer to graduate from a law school. In 1879, Belva Ann Lockwood became the first woman admitted to practice before the U.S. Supreme Court.

In 1897, H.H.A. Beach’s Gaelic Symphony” is the first symphony by a woman performed in the U.S. and possibly the entire world.

In 1916, four years before women’s suffrage, the citizens of Montana elect
Jeanette Rankin as the first woman to be elected to the U.S. House of Representatives. The first woman senator was Rebecca Felton, of Georgia, appointed to full a temporary vacancy in 1922. The first woman governor was Nellie Tayloe Ross, elected in 1924 (inaugurated in 1925) in Wyoming. Miriam Amanda “Ma” Ferguson was inaugurated as governor of Texas a few days later.

Edith Wharton became the first woman to win a Pulitzer Prize for fiction with her novel, The Age of Innocence, in 1921.

In 1920, after the enactment of the 19th Amendment,
Marie Ruoff Byrum, of Missouri, became the first woman to legally exercise her suffrage.

Frances Perkins was appointed Secretary of Labor by FDR in 1932, making her the first woman cabinet member.

Lettie Pate Whitehead became the first American woman to serve as a director as a major corporation in 1934 when she became a director of The Coca-Cola Company.

Margaret Chase Smith
, of Maine, became the first woman nominated for president of the United States by a major political party in 1964, at the Republican National Convention in San Francisco.

Sandra Day O’Connor became the first female Supreme Court justice in 1981, despite not even being able to find a job as an attorney after she graduated #3 in her class from Stanford Law (former Chief Justice William Rehnquist was #1 in that same class), simply because she was a woman. She got many offers to be a legal secretary, however.

Janet Reno
became the first woman U.S. Attorney General in 1993. That same year, Toni Morrison became the first African-American woman to win the Nobel Prize for literature.

Madeleine Albright
became the first female U.S. Secretary of State in 1997. Condoleeza Rice became the first black female Secretary of State in 2005.

And in 2007,
Nancy Pelosi became the first woman Speaker of the House of Representatives, presiding over the most diverse Congress in history.

Go you girls!

However, with all the advances in gender equality, allowing women to achieve their dreams, there remains an alarming statistic. 95% of all abuse victims remain women. Every year, four million women are assaulted by their spouse or partner.

Last summer I approached my publisher,
Marci Baun at Freya’s Bower, with the idea of putting together a charity anthology. Two Freya’s Bowers editors, including managing editor Faith Bicknell-Brown, have been domestic violence victims, living in shelters with their children, so this was an obvious cause.

Dreams & Desires: A Collection of Romance and Erotic Tales was born. With nineteen stories by nineteen authors in all romance subgenres and all heat levels (from sweet to sizzling), it’s our hope that this anthology will help break the cycle of violence, to allow all women the opportunity to realize their own dreams.

When you buy a copy of this special anthology, YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Not only did all the authors contribute their stories to this anthology, but all the editor and cover art were also donated.
All of the net proceeds – that’s 100% of the profit – from the sales of the anthology will go directly to a battered woman’s shelter in Florida.

I’m proud to be part of this anthology, to be surrounded by such talented authors, working towards such a worthy cause. I’m proud to be part of the effort to bring the ugly abuse statistic down to ZERO. But most of all, I’m proud to be a woman.

Why are you proud to be a woman?
What dreams and desires do you wish to achieve?

Throughout the day, not only will I pop in to answer questions and interact, but my co-authors will, as well. So please welcome Jenna Bayley-Burke, Faith Bicknell-Brown, Sela Carsen, Rachelle Chase, Gemma Halliday, Candace Havens, Zinnia Hope, Jackie Kessler, Susan Lyons, Richelle Mead, Debbie Mumford, Rhonda Stapleton, Bebe Thomas, Emily Veinglory, Sasha White, Lois Winston, Shauna Wolf, and Kit Wylde. These ladies are not only talented, but extremely generous.

Thanks for having us, Michelle!
Encore! Robin Schone GuestBlogs Tomorrow, Wed, March 14!
Encore! Look for a new Feature of Robin Schone's "Scandalous Lovers," at Romance: B(u)y the BOOK Wednesday. Lisa Kleypas' "Sugar Daddy" is Featured today!


Rhonda Helms said...

Thanks so much for having us here! We look forward to talking today.

Rhonda Stapleton

Eva Gale said...

Excellent post, Amanda.

Lois Winston said...

Ditto to what Amanda said. I am so thrilled to be part of the DREAMS & DESIRES anthology because the cause is dear to my heart. And I want to reiterate what Amanda said -- 100% of the profits from the sales of DREAMS & DESIRES go to the shelter. There have been many other charity anthologies published to raise funds for needy causes. As far as I know, they've all only contributed a percentage of their profit. We're giving it all away -- 100%.

Lois Winston
TALK GERTIE TO ME, available now

Debbie Mumford said...

Good morning, Bellas! We're delighted to be able to drop by and spend some time with you today.

Debbie Mumford

Michelle Buonfiglio said...

You're welcome; we're looking forward to it, too, Rhonda!

Buongiorno, Amanda and Bellas! Good Monday to ya, too. Amanda's GuestBlog is one of those that makes me feel both proud, and mediocre. But that's what happens when I look at the examples of great women she's brought for us to admire today. :) I wonder how they'd all feel about being lauded among an audience of readers of romance novels? If they knew what we're all about, they'd be proud of us, too, I'd think. (I actually understand Sandra Day O'Conner is a great fan of supermodel Fabio and "The Wolf and The Dove." She and Anton Scalia would hide copies of Woodiwiss in their robes and pass them back and forth during session, until David Souter got wind of it and "confiscated" the copy for his inspection.)

OK. I'm lying. But can you imagine Scalia and Souter with a Harlequin Superromance or something? It could change the face of American justice as we know it.

Rhonda Helms said...

I know. I love seeing the successes of women. It's very humbling and empowering at the same time, you know? We can strive to such greatness, and that makes me glad to be a girl!!!

Debbie Mumford said...

Right on, Rhonda! I've always been glad to be a girl ... but then, I'm the only female among 6 kids. All that testosterone growing up made me value being female.

We're women, and we can do anything! *LOL*

Kati said...

What a wonderful thing you ladies are doing! Congratulations.

So, can I ask? I'm woefully ignorant about mythology. To what does "Freya's Bower" refer?

Rhonda Helms said...

Hi, Marykate! Thanks for popping by. - this is a great page to tell about who Freya is. Here's the text on Freya's Bower's website:

Freya is a Norse goddess. Depending on what sources you read, she is the goddess of fertility, prophecy, love, beauty, sensuality, attraction, war and/or wealth. She is also the goddess of the sky and thus responsible for the sun, the clouds, rain and crops. She led the Valkyries on her boar Hildisvin or in her carriage pulled by two cats the size of lions. When she reached the battlefield, she had the right to claim half of the fallen warriors to live with her in her hall Sessrumnir. She often invited the wives or lovers of the fallen heroes to join their mates in her home.

Freya's beauty was purported to be so great that all of the Vanir Norse gods wished to sleep with her. Her beauty garnered her the Brosingamen necklace from four dwarves. Most sources state she slept with them in order to obtain it. Among her other possessions are a cloak made of hawk/eagle feathers that allows the wearer to turn into any bird, travel between worlds, or around the world at great speed.

She was the daughter of Njord and the sister of Freyr. Her husband was the god Od, whom many believe to be Odin, the chief Norse god. When her husband died, it is said she cried tears of gold. As she could pass between the worlds with her feather cloak, she was able to visit him in Valhalla.

Freya was not afraid of her sexual appetites and is said to have slept with enough men, gods, and other beings to make Aphrodite/Venus' conquests pale in comparison. Her appreciation of the physical aspects of life extended beyond sex. She loved music, flowers, and spring.

Due to her many attributes, Freya was a popular goddess to worship. When Christianity gained in strength, in a bid to discourage worship of Freya, the Church protrayed her as a witch. As time passed, she became the stereotype of a witch and her cats a witch's familiar.

tetewa said...

This is a wonderful thing you ladies are doing! What a great idea for authors to donate stories for contributions. You gals rock! I hope it has much success.

Debbie Mumford said...

Frankly, I was SO excited to be invited to contribute ... I mean, to have one of my stories in the same volume with Gemma Halliday and Lois Winston (to name just two!) ... wow! AND to have the opportunity to aid women in crisis at the same time ... well, contributing a short story was a total no-brainer!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for having us Michelle! (Sorry to be joining in so late...I had a meeting this morning.)

Michelle, your comments about Scalia and O'Connor passing back and forth romance novels seriously cracked me up. Thank you for that! You seriously made my day.

O'Connor is just about the nicest lady I've ever met, and she's a true role model for women. I think she'd be very proud of what we're doing here. :)

Rachelle Chase said...

It's an honor to be here today - thanks so much for having us, Michelle.

Ditto what Debbie said regarding Dreams & Desires - it's so exciting to participate in such a worthy cause. Amanda's concept and Freya's Bower's implementation of the idea is just awesome.

And, btw, you had me going there about Scalia and O'Connor. Shows how gullible I am. LOL

Amanda - what a wonderful post! I learned a lot of new facts today.

Thank you, Marykate and Teresa. :-)

Anonymous said...

LOL, Rachelle, for a second there I too thought Michelle was serious until I was like, "uh, Scalia? WTF?!"

That was seriously hilarious. Good stuff!

Anonymous said...

Michelle, I know. I look at that list of ladies and I suddenly feel incredibly inadequate! LOL!

Each and every one of them are fantastic role models, but I could have made that list ten times longer if I had the space!

It's pretty amazing how far women have come, but we're not there yet. The fact that 95% of abuse victims are women is proof.

Julie in Ohio said...

Welcome, All!!

I am proud to be a woman just so I can be counted in the ranks with these wonderful women blogging today. What you gals are doing is fantastic!! Thank you.

Cherie said...

Wow! I am so impressed by what you are doing with this fundraising book. I used to work in a shelter here in Florida so I know the need is great. What a wonderful thing you are doing. I am now a stay at home with 2 small children but I still try to do what I can with donations of goods and money locally at our shelters. Definitely, a worthy cause.

What makes me proud to be a woman is how we can band together to help others. I also am proud of the fact that we can shape the next generation by being their teachers. I am proud of the fact that I will be homeschooling my kids once they are of school age and that I will be able to expose them to a variety of literature and other things that they won't learn in the school system until years later.

As for dreams and desires I love to learn about new placescultures. Hubby and I want to travel more when the kids are older. We have a list of places already that we want to see.

Cherie Japp

Anonymous said...

Thanks Julie! We're slowly by surely attracting attention. World domination and eradicating the ills of domestic violence are next, but we're doing it one copy at a time.

That's the amazing thing about this project. Literally EVERYTHING was donated. Nobody involved is making a single penny, and we're just thrilled about it!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for commenint, Cherie! It sounds like you're doing some great stuff!

Oh, and the shelter that's the recipient of this year's funds is in Florida (although we can't name it for privacy concerns). Not sure which shelter will receive proceeds from next year's edition...that's right--we're happy to announce that this will be a yearly project! All of this year's authors have signed on for next year, and several other authors will be joining us, including Jaci Burton, Michelle Rowen, and possibly Diana Peterfreund.

Sela Carsen said...

What a fantastic blog entry, Amanda! I do hope that those great ladies would be proud of our efforts on behalf of other women.

I know that I couldn't be more proud of my fellow authors and our wonderful publisher for taking the time and effort to put DREAMS & DESIRES on the market. The ability to help such a worthy cause is more than enough compensation.

Rhonda Helms said...

No doubt. I'm thrilled to see this story getting out there and getting good attention!!

Anonymous said...

You ladies should be very proud of what you're doing. I know the women on the receiving end will be very grateful.

Jackie said...

Marvelous post, Amanda!

I am proud to be part of this effort -- and I truly hope that we help raise awareness as well as raise funds.

Anonymous said...

What an incredible thing to be a part of. And thanks for the mythology lesson Rhonda. I have always been interested in it, but NEVER have any time to actually do anything about it. Some day I will though. :)

Hmmm, I am proud to be a woman for so many reasons. One, I KNOW we are tougher than men. I mean can you see a man being pregnant and delivering a baby??? I think not! Any time they are sick, it is always "The sickest I've ever benn...sniff..sniff" Some of us may lack in physical strength but our tolerance to pain can't be beat.

Kelly F.

Bebe said...

I like to think of this anthology as girl power in action.

Amanda, this was an amazing blog entry! I can't thank you enough for including Elizabeth Blackwell in your post and transporting me back to 1979.

I was in the fourth grade and each student had to do an oral book report - in full costume! - on an important person in history. Most of the girls in my class picked Clara Barton or Martha Washington or Pocahontas. When I stood in front of the class and said my report was on Elizabeth Blackwell, even the teacher was like... "Who?"

I feel blessed and honored to be part of the Dreams and Desires anthology. And yes, proud to be part of this sisterhood of romance readers and authors who care about this cause.

Playground Monitor said...

I am proud to be a woman because of women like all of you.

You forgot two other female firsts -- Sally Ride, the first American female astronaut and Mae Jemison, the first African American female astronaut. Dr. Jemison's inspiration for wanting to become a space traveler was Lt. Uhura on Star Trek.

Marilyn who lives in Rocket City USA

kim h said...

sound great, so does the book

Anonymous said...

Bebe, I included Elizabeth Blackwell because I, too, chose her for an oral biography book report back in either 3rd or 4th grade. :) And like your class, we had mostly Betsy Ross, Clara Barton, Martha Washington, and nobody had a clue who Elizabeth Blackwell was.

Playground monitor, I regret having to cut Sally Ride from my list. I had her in there, but my list ended up being WAY too long, so I ended up cutting her out, sadly. So thanks for including her!

I just wish I could have spotlighted all the women I wanted to spotlight. Lots of famous firsts. But I was afraid Michelle would kick my butt for taking up way too much space! LOL!

Lois Winston said...

Hmm...I think Blogger hates me this morning. I just posted a comment that seems to be floating around cyberspace. So if it shows up again, sorry for the repeat. What I tried to say before was to thank Debbie for the awesome compliment and say that I was excited to be part of such a wonderful group of women (Debbie included) who are working toward making a differnce in the world.

So now I'm going to try to send and hope my comment goes through this time.

Lois Winston
TALK GERTIE TO ME, available now

Marci Baun said...

Hello, everyone!

I am Marci Baun. I'm sorry that I am late, but being on the West Coast often does that to me with chats. :)

Thanks for coming and joining us. :) One woman not known by many people is Lady Margaret Brent -- She was a very powerful landowner during colonial Maryland. In 1648, she marched down to the town hall and demanded the right to vote -- two votes, actually. The first American woman to do so. :) Now, that's hutzpah!

Thank you for inviting us to be here, Michelle!


Gemma Halliday said...

Good morning, Bellas!
Am I late to the party? Ah, such is life on the West Coast. :)
Great post, Amanda! I love seeing those kind of achievements by women. My favorite are the ones where woman are the first person to do something – not just the first woman. I hope we'll be seeing more and more of those.

Thanks for having us today, Michelle!

Gemma Halliday

Anonymous said...

That *is* chutzpah, Marci! I hope she got the right to vote. Go Lady Margaret!

Marci Baun said...

She didn't. They weren't quite sure what to think of her, but she told them that as long as she didn't have a voice in what happened in the colony, she wouldn't obey any mandates the council made. (grin) She owned the land with her sister. If I remember correctly, the land she owned with her was called "Sister's Stronghold" or something like that. I will have to look it up in my book. (grin) I own lots of books on women's history. It's one of my interests. :) However, that does NOT make me an expert. LOL


Anonymous said...

LOL! Good for her! Gotta love civil disobedience.

I agree, Gemma. The firsts where the woman was the first PERSON (male or female) are really cool. :)

I think we'll be seeing more and more of those in future years. Just look at the statistics in higher education. Women outnumber men in colleges and universities. True, men still outnumber women in certain fields, and continue to out-earn women, but that's changing with each new generation of women graduates.

Go girls!

Gemma Halliday said...
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Gemma Halliday said...

Makes me proud to wear pink heels. ;)

Rhonda Helms said...

I've never been abused, thank God. But I'm so glad there are women looking out for other women. It's so easy to get trapped into a relationship where you can be abused--my grandmother did it for years before packing up her EIGHT children and leaving my grandfather (still despise the man--I've never met him, nor do I want to. He's made no amends for his treatment of her).

Does anyone on here know someone who is being abused? Or has been? What would you do if you discovered a women you knew was in an abusive relationship?

Just figured I'd get a little discussion started. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

robynl said...

Many women will benefit from the generosity of you women; thanks to you a difference can be made.

Girl Power!!! here is to it.

Maria, Lover of All Things Romance said...

I'm proud to be a woman because Oprah is female. My main goal in life is to become a published author

Anonymous said...

Rhonda, good question.

When I was a freshman in college, one of my hallmates in my dorm was in a relationship with this horribly abusive guy. It broke my heart to watch her with him, and see how/why she justified his behavior.

I remember once being out with her at some parties. On the way home, we decided to order pizza, but we knew it would take a while for delivery, so we put in an order, and I told her I'd come to her room when it arrived. Once my then-boyfriend got the call saying that the delivery guy was there (this was back before cell phones), I went down the hall and knocked on her door. She said for me to come in, so I did. She and her boyfriend were just sort of laying in bed (fully clothed) watching a movie and snuggling. No big deal.

I told her that the pizza had arrived and he literally flipped out. To this day, I have no idea what he was so upset about, but it doesn't matter. Anyway, he flipped out (apparently he was mad that she and I had been out at frat parties or something) and yelled at her, and then stormed off to his room. She ran after him, begging for him to come back so they could talk about it (I still don't know what she did that was wrong). He slammed the door behind him, but she was so close behind him, that she sort of got caught in the door. He then proceeded to open the door, then slam it shut about 6 times, each time intentionally catching her inside the doorframe (I was standing less than 5 feet away, watching the whole thing, screaming for him to stop). He was holding onto her arm so that she couldn't run away. He then slapped her across the face.

She proceeded to sit outside his door, begging him to let her inside. A minute or two later, he opened the door and dragged her inside.

We didn't see her again until the next morning, at which time she said (and this has stuck in my mind, and haunted me to this day): "He just has a temper. My dad has a temper."

It broke my heart. Her father must have been abusive to her mother, so she grew up thinking this was normal and acceptable behavior.

Thank goodness today she's strong and has realized that this is not OK. Last I heard, she's an attorney specializing in domestic violence victims.

Anyway, what I witnessed stayed with me, and to this day, this cause is very important to me. We have to break the cycle of violence and achieve a world in which all women are safe.

Rhonda Helms said...

Oh man, I got goosebumps reading that story, Amanda. What a heartbreaker. Thank GOD she's out of that cycle and helping other women!


Truly awful. :(

Anonymous said...

I should point out that I immediately went to the hall RA, but nobody could do anything about it, because when they knocked on the door and asked my friend if she was OK, she said she was. Since she said she was fine, and at that point was basically with him in the bedroom of her own volition, they could do nothing.

That made me feel so helpless and I had nightmares for days afterwards, just watching my friend go through that, yet I could do nothing about it.

Rhonda Helms said...

I would have had nightmares about that, too. Domestic violence doesn't just affect the woman, but others around her. Terrible.

Anonymous said...

That's one of the most important parts of this book, actually. True, people buy the book because they want to read the stories (all of which are excellent, by the way! and I'm not just saying that because I'm in the book < g>) and support the cause, but nobody should skip the foreword. S. R. Howen wrote a very important foreword, with signs that friends/family should look for, and information on how to help if someone you love is in an abusive relationship.

If you know what to look for and what to do, you can do more than just stand there watching helplessly like I did.

Debbie Mumford said...

I'm truly blessed. I've had wonderful relationships with all the men in my life. Unfortunately, my daughter has not been so lucky. I am more proud of her than I can say, though. She found the courage to leave. Packed up everything she owned and drove across country to come home to us last summer. She's had some scares, even after putting all that distance between them, but she's healing (emotionally) and knows how strong she is now.

She didn't need a shelter, but I'm delighted to help make sure they exist for women who need them.

LizbethSelvig said...

Hi Amanda and Amazaing Anthology Authors,
Talk about late to the party - I'm an hour earlier than west coast time so am just catching up!

What a subject - and how impressive it is to be part of a community that can boast something so wonderful as your project. Much less important than the goal of the anthology is the fact that it shows romance writers in their very best light. Way to go on so many fronts!

I have been so incredibly fortunate to spend my life surrounded by caring, kind and fairly liberated men. I am heartsick for women who don't have that blessing. Even when the abuse is not physical but psychological the effects are devastating. I have a friend who went through a divorce after 30 years of a marriage where she was held down and kept isolated and, even now, is fighting the horrid "PR" her ex is feeding her five children. Soooo sad.

Way to go ladies for taking on such an important subject.

Rachelle Chase said...

My God, Amanda. That story was truly heartrending! Thank heavens your friend was able to change. It's so sad that there are so many more such stories out there. I've read the philosophy behind why people abuse others but, no matter how many times I read it, I do not truly 'get it' - how someone can inflict pain on others and justify their actions as okay.

Debbie, how wonderful to hear that your daughter escaped and is healing.

Rachelle Chase
SEX LOUNGE (May 2007)
SIN CLUB (Dec 2007)

Anonymous said...

Debbie, I'm so happy to hear that your daughter was able to escape. *hugs*

Lizees, I'm so sorry that your friend went through that and continues to. It's truly a horrible thing, but thank goodness she's left him.

PatriciaW said...

Thanks for the reminder that although we see women in so many prominent roles today, we are still achieving "firsts" all the time.

Through this book, perhaps we can take a step toward another first for our great global society: the complete eradication of domestic abuse.

Vivi Anna said...

Welcome wonderful women! I think it's an awesome anthology with very talented authors for a great cause.

I've had two abusive relationships...almost didn't make it out of one of them...luckily my family was there for me. It's unfortunate that some women don't have that and feel like they can't get out.

Anonymous said...

Patricia, that would be a fantastic first, and I hope we can get there!

Vivi, *hugs* Thanks for sharing your story. It's wonderful that you were able to get the support you needed.

Unknown said...

I think it is great what you are doing. Great post too!

Caffey said...

I wanted to say Hi to each of you,Michelle, Jenna, Faith, Sela, Rachelle, Gemma, Candace, Zinnia, Jackie, Susan, Richelle, Debbie, Rhonda, Bebe, Emily, Sasha, Lois, Shauna, and Kit. Its really a joy to meet you all that I haven't before and too those I do know, always great to say Hi.

This fundraiser is a needed one. I'm happy you did this and you all have written some wonderful books that I know when I'm able to get this one, I too will treasure it.

Why are you proud to be a woman?
***When you were writing up the woman's first, I didn't see the first so I thought too those woman who have been an inspiration to us. And for me, that would be Helen Keller and our strive to overcome our disabilities and focus on our strenghts. And of course, to always find a way.

What dreams and desires do you wish to achieve?
***I just want to overcome this health issue now and have my life back. Its been a struggle and with difficult news recently, the set back is hard and sometimes its hard to stay strong, so I really do wish to get my health back again.

Marci Baun said...

Personally, I am fortunate to never have experienced an abusive relationship. However, my oldest sister was in several. I remember one in particular because the guy was psycho (okay, most of them are psycho). This particular instance her then boyfriend came out to my parents house waving a 45 magnum, threatening the entire family. I was 12 or 13 at the time, I think. My dad told all of us to stay in the house and went out to confront him. My dad talked the BF down and talked him in to leaving. But that BF was intent on shooting my father. So, no an abusive relationship does not just affect the abused. And, yes, it was very frightening. And, yes, my dad was my hero for many, many, many years. :)

Debbie, I am so glad your daughter has escaped. I hope that will be the last of it.


Gemma Halliday said...

I haven't been in a abusive relationship myself, but my cousin just got out of one. Or, I should say, is currently trying to end it. The problem is that the abuse has been so mental, as well as physical, and over a period of years, that she doesn't want to be without him. Even though on some level she knows he's bad for her. The belittling that goes on has destroyed her self esteem and she truly thinks that he's all she deserves. It's very sad.

Gemma Halliday

Kit Wylde said...

That is the biggest challenge, I think, Gemma. The abuser convinces the abused that they deserve every slap, every profane word they get. That is why it is so hard for many women to leave. That and many have no where to go.

Hi everyone!

I am late, a West Coaster too, and just managed to escape from work. It's great to be here.

Wonderful post, Amanda! I have always admired the women who have come before (and men). The freedoms we enjoy now are due to their sacrifices. :)


Kit Wylde
"Last Chance", a novella
“Dreams & Desires: A Collection of Romance & Erotic Tales” -- a charity anthology with net proceeds going to a battered woman’s shelter.
Available at Freya's Bower --

catslady said...

Just wanted to say that was a great post - I learned a lot!! And I'm looking forward to reading all the posts from all you authors!!

Rachelle Chase said...

Thanks, Caffey - and hi back at you. :-)

I think so many of the comments shared illustrate just how far the tentacles of abuse reach -- even for those of us who have not been directly touched by abuse, we have been emotionally affected by an abused loved one. It is so sad the the problem is so huge ...

Rachelle Chase
SEX LOUNGE (May 2007)
SIN CLUB (Dec 2007)

Rhonda Helms said...

I just wanted to quickly say thanks for having us here to talk! *waves to everyone* It's 9 pm here on the east coast, and I'm heading out for the night.

Thanks to everyone for sharing those personal memories and thoughts. I truly appreciate it!

Please, take a chance and go buy this anthology. I bought several copies, even though I'm an author in it--it's a wonderful charity event, and there are truly some EXCELLENT stories in here!!

Take care,

Rhonda Stapleton

Anonymous said...

Michelle, thanks so much for having us today!

Like Rhonda, I also bought my own copies. We're operating basically on a shoestring budget here, so that all proceeds can go to those who need it. We hope to raise lots of money, so please check it out!

You can find DREAMS & DESIRES in your local bookstore (if they don't have it, ask them to order it--it's distributed through Ingram's), on Amazon, or directly through the FB website at

Bebe said...

Grazie, Michelle and Bellas! It was wonderful to be part of your blog today.

Kari Lee Townsend said...

Very cool. Great blog. Glad I checked it out.

Rachelle Chase said...

Once again, thanks Michelle for having us - and thanks to everyone for participating. I had fun. :-)

Tempest Knight said...

I have the ebook and it's awesome. And all for a wonderful cause! If you've not read it, go and buy it. Thanks Amanda for coming up with such an inspiring idea. :)

BTW, Amanda, that was a very informative post. I felt like breaking into the Annie Lennox & Aretha Franklin song "Sisters are doing it all by themselves..."

Unknown said...

Leave it to Amanda to do the research :) Lucky us she wroute the post.

?Why am I proud to be a woman?

We can CREATE LIFE! Seriously, that is beyond pride, but I was never more proud of myself than when I had my babies.

That, and we may be critical of one another individually, but as a group we are unstoppable. (Except by a day with kindergarteners topped with a trip to the park. Mudpuddles, people. My pride went right out the window.)

Kit Wylde said...


Thanks for having us today. I am sorry I couldn't spend more time here.

And thank you, Bellas, for joining us. :)


Kit Wylde
"Last Chance", a novella
“Dreams & Desires: A Collection of Romance & Erotic Tales” -- a charity anthology with net proceeds going to a battered woman’s shelter.
Available at Freya's Bower --

Laurie said...

I'm proud to be a woman because I've been able to influence my children; 1 daughter, 3 sons to respect all people regardless of race or gender. They are polite and helpful to others, especially the older people in our condo developement. I grew up in the 70's so I saw the advancement of the woman's movement with MS magazine, the advancement of woman in the work place, the acceptannce of a woman's right to her body; the passage of Roe Vs Wade etc
What do I hope to achieve or dream for woman in the future? I dream that their will be a woman president and more woman in the top government postions. I dream that all men will accept woman's views as equal to their own. I dream that woman will to be seen as more than a body for sex. I dream that woman will be respected and accepted as the smart people that they are!
What a great cause your book is supporting!! My hat goes off to all of you!!

Laurie said...

OOPS... their should be spelled there... too early!!

Anonymous said...

I'm excited that we're continuing this for another day. Thanks so much for spotlighting us Michelle!

amy kennedy said...

Late to the party--what a wonderfully thoughtful thing you women are doing--I will definately buy the book.

This is what makes me proud to be a woman.

Amanda Elyot said...

We may not always be able to HAVE it all, but somehow, we always manage to DO it all. That's one reason I'm proud to be a woman.

Anonymous said...

Why is it that nearly all women are able to multitask, and nearly all men AREN'T?

PatriciaW said...

As a wife and mother of three sons, I'm proud to be a woman because we not only bring life into the world, we soften the edges of living. Even with my baby boys, I see an innate edge that I consider it my duty to smooth out a bit, to show them that there are other ways of approaching the universe.

I dream for women to hold the highest political offices, to run the largest, most successful corporations, to influence legislation that it may become more family friendly, and to free ourselves from any emotional or mental chains that keep us from touching the stars we individually dream of.

Anonymous said...

seeing if I can now post . . .