Saturday, September 09, 2006

Want Some Candy, Little Boy?

I was thinking this morning that there's one thing that pretty much most of the guys have in common that we've been ogling here at RBtheBlog: they're all younger than me. And I'm not sure how I feel about that.

I mean, I've been diggin on finding pix of hot guys for you, cause it gets me to places on the Inet that sometimes make shudder -- usually with excitement, often with arousal, occasionally with revulsion -- that part of me I thought had seen (and read) everything.

When I'm searching, I generally stumble across all kinds of trendy crap. Yet, nothing makes me feel more de trop than realizing what the young and hip are doing, that calling them hip makes one the opposite of that, and that even when I was younger, I still probably wouldn't have understood why they were doing it.

Thing is, I'm at this remarkable point in life where my body is zinging, I love what I do, and I feel more confident than ever about things I never knew I could control. But I'm still trying to figure out the rules, I guess, which is kinda disappointing. I mean, is it just plain creepy to think guys who are 10, 15, 20 years younger than I are sexy as hell?

This week's feature at Romance: B(u)y the Book deals with a few of these issues. "Just One of Those Flings" has an alpha younger man who's crazy about an older woman. Our heroine's got to convince herself that his attraction to her is real, not some fetish; that her desirablity transcends her age.

Plus, she figures out whether she can embrace the self-possession and sophistication that come with aging. And she gets to do it all while having an outrageously-erotic affaire!


What's the best thing about being you at your age?

How's it better than any other point in your life?


Encore! Molto grazie, Linda , the TiVo DiVa, for your great visit yesterday. Can't wait til you come back next month to mix it up about the new season and all

Encore due! nairobi typ0, you're yesterday's contest winner! Email me at with your snail mail addy, Bella! Thank you all who commented!

Encore tre! The beautiful young thing to the left is an English rugby guy. I just thought it'd be nice to look at him this weekend.


Kati said...

Michelle! I love ERG (English Rugby Guy)! He's delicious! It's good that we don't have a name for him because it'd probably be something like Rupert. And that kind of kills it for me. But he is yummy.

I'm 35. I like being 35. I have a great job where I get to travel and stay as VIP in very nice hotels. I'm confident professionally that I do something I really enjoy, with people whom I for the most part enjoy. I have a small group of very, very good friends whom I adore. I have a loving family. Do I want more? Of course. I'd like to find a man who compliments my personality and appreciates and adores me, I think I might like to have kids. I'd like to lose some weight. I'd like to have thicker hair (LOL!).

But for the most part, my life is pretty dang good.

Thanks, Michelle. It's always good to count your blessings.

BTW, Vivi, I just finished THE TURNING. Yowza! What an awesome recommendation. A little bit hard core, I think for some romance readers, but I really enjoyed it. It kind of reminds me of LKH's Anita Blake series, but without some of the weird sex. Thanks again! I can't wait for the next one to come out!

Dannyfiredragon said...

Congrats to yesterdays winner!

I am 29, but I look much younger (more than 10 years) and it's driving me nuts, it always has.

Vivi Anna said...

Cool MK! I'm glad you liked it. I believe Jennifer is some young early twenties, so I really want to hate her,,,but I can't because she writes one mean story!! LOL

I jsut turned 36. And I'm happy where I am. I like being in my thirties because I've finally realized what I really truly want from my life. I realize now that my worth has nothing to do with a man, and that I"m honestly happy and satisfied without someone in my life. I have my gorgeous daughter, whom I adore, I have my career that is starting to flourish, and I have my wonderful group of friends online and off that like me for who I truly am.

Playground Monitor said...

Y'all are mere babies. I turned 55 this year and life is wonderful. I'm finished with menopause and I can't get pregnant. **gg** My children are grown and didn't become serial killers. I have a beautiful little granddaughter. My husband and I have been married for 33 years. We have a good and comfortable life with hobbies we share and hobbies that are just our own. I'm trying to pursue a writing career and have sold a few things to some magazines. I have oodles and oodles of friends who like me for who I am. Life just doesn't get a whole lot better than that.

Rach said...

My mom says I was 80 even when I was two--I've always been an old sould. That said, I'm 29 going on who knows... I'll be 30 in November, and the thing is, it doesn't bother me. I've got girlfriends going nuts because, OMG, they're going to be 30!!! So what???!!!??? It's just a number, guys! It's all about how you feel and what you do.

I love being 30 (for all intents and purposes I am). I love my job (though I gripe insessently), I have the most wonderful husband (even after seven years of marriage) and the girls are AMAZING! Sure, I've gotta lose about half of myself in weight, but that's doable--as soon as I grow some will power ;oP.

Typ0, congrats on the win!! =)

Jennifer Y. said...

I am 23 (but I apparently look younger... for example, I got a kiddie menu at a restaurant a few weeks ago for ages 12 and under...I don't think I look that young).

I am not sure what is so great about being my age right now. Some days I am glad that I am young...other days I wish I was older and had lived a little and had more experience and the families that some of y'all have.

At this point in my life I am still trying to figure out what I want to do. I have a college degree, but lack the experience that some jobs require. That is a disadvantage to being young.

Sometimes I wish I were a kid again, where my biggest worry was whether to watch Sesame Street or the Smurfs. I know I don't have half the worries that some of those older than me might have, but I don't like the ones that I do have. I yearn for security, a family, and a good job.

Candice Hern said...

Thanks for plugging my book, Michelle! I had to bite my tongue as I wrote about an "older" woman of 35 when I have 20 years on her. But in the early 19th century, 35 was pretty long in the tooth.

Apart from certain minor physical gripes, I'm very content with where I am in my life. Sure, I wouldn't mind having a younger body, as long as the older brain went with it. :-)

MsTypo said...

EEEEEEEEE!!!! *bounce* *bounce* I've never won anything before! *bounce* Thanks, Michelle!!! :D :D

(I should note for honesty's sake that i really did squeal outloud when i read that and my husband, how was previously on the fence on this issue, now officially thinks i'm nutters. :D )

I turned *sob* 31 just a few days ago. This age isn't horrible... My teens were cool. My 20s were simply great. So since my adjectives are getting better age i'm guessing that my 30s will be amazing. (I hope!) I have a cool life now so i guess i shouldn't complain.

The best part of now is that i can look back at all things i'd love to change about my teens and 20s and realize that i can't and wouldn't fix a thing. If i studied more in hs or college i wouldn't have met Hubby the way i did, and we likely wouldn't be together today. If i changed even the smallest thing (and heaven knows a time machine would have come in handy a few times back then), then my today wouldn't be the same. And i like today, warts and all. :D :D

Vivi Anna said...

Oh, and as for younger men...

I find myself ogling younger men ALL THE TIME. I want one, or two!

And Michelle, there is NOTHING wrong with it Bella. :-) You're a hot-blooded woman with a passion for life, why not have the fantasy? It doesn't hurt!

ev said...

I am 46 and still feel 29, so I don't find it strange to oogle younger men. What I find strange is looking in the mirror and realizing I am not 29 any more.
My husband of 9 years is 72, and it doesn't bother us one little bit. He is still employed by the state full time and I am enjoying retirement! Between us we have 5 kids from 48 to 21, 6 grandkids from 21 to 16month old twins, and share many interests but pursue our own, too. My daughter(21) and I enjoy going to concerts and movies together (not something he does). I guess I am part of the oreo generation. I have my mother and hubby on one side, and the younger kids on the other. When someone needs something, they call me. I love it. DH made me go back to college a few years ago and finish my degree, and is encouraging me to continue, which I will most likely do in the spring. Someday I will have to go back to work, but until then, I get to enjoy doing all those things I couldn't when I was younger. Now I am braver and much more confident in myself and what I can accomplish.

I love being 29, I mean 46....

The Turning, like LKH's Blake series? I will have to go and find it.

amy kennedy said...

Rach, my B-day's in November too--but I'll be 48. I don't feel 48--what's it supposed to feel like anyhow? What I love is that I finally accept who I am. I love myself, finally. I have a grown daughter with a baby of her own--yeah--I'm a grandma, my 18 year old son moved in with three other guys into a town house. So it's me and DH and our 7 year old. And the puppy.

Life is great. I love my family and friends--and I feel that this coming year I'm finally gonna finish that first draft-hahahaha.

I love how everyone--no matter their age--likes where they are at. And Jennifery and Dannyfiredragon--looking younger will really come in handy in 20 years.

amy kennedy said...

Candace, it always stops me cold, when I'm reading a Regency and they talk of a 40 year old still looking attractive. I know, I know, 19th century.

Rach said...

When in November, Amy? I'm a Thanksgiving baby--November 24th.

Jenn and Dannyfiredragon, I have a girlfriend who will look much younger *forever*, I swear! She is 30 and *still* gets carded! It used to be a pain, but now she just loves it =).

Stacy~ said...

LOL MK about Rupert...ain't that the truth? Does kinda ruin the fantasy a little if you have to say "Can I call you Colin or Gerard?"

I'm in my mid-thirties and I feel way more confident in myself and what I do than I did 15-20 years ago. I find that I prefer having a job I love, even if I don't make a ton of money. I'm more sue of what I want out of life...and what I don't. I don't want to settle - that's the huge thing. So many people do, for security, for money, whatever. That doesn't appeal to me at all. I believe you can accomplish much more if you're happy than you can if you're miserable.

And it's definitely a mindset. I have a friend, single mother of 3, and she is so positive and she loves her kids, but she also takes care of herself. She works a lot to support them, but she also dates and goes out and lives life for herself, too. I think she's got a well-adjusted life, for herself and the kids.

I also wonder if our mindset has anything to do with how things were in high school. (I won't mention college because most people love college and really find themselves there). I didn't have a bad experience in h.s., but it also wasn't the time of my life, either. I think that's why I look forward to getting older vs. lamenting it.

Amy, good luck with that first draft. You can do it. No doubt.

Rach said...

I don't know about the high school theory, Stace. I LOVED high school--wasn't popular by *any* stretch of the imagination--but had a lot of great friends and a bunch of good times. Would I want to go back? H3ll no!!!! Did I attend my 10 year reunion? Nope. I had no interest in revisiting those days. I liked where I was in high school and I'm even more satisfied with where I am now.

Rach said...

Okay, thinking I may have sounded harsh, sorry, Stace!

Just because I loved high school doesn't mean the rest of you Bellas did. I had to step back and remind myself of that.

Stacy~ said...

LOL Rach. No, I don't think you sounded harsh. I think I need to explain meself here *g* I just meant that some people loved h.s. so much that they are stuck in a time warp, maybe because those were their "glory days", you know? You've obviously moved on and have a wonderful life now - you're not stuck in the past by any means. I think the ones that are still re-living those days could be the ones who have a problem with getting older. Just a thought, not necessarily an intelligent one.

Sounds like the Bellas are all pretty happy, well-adjusted ladies...well, for the most part LOL.

Julie in Ohio said...

I missed a fun topic this weekend, didn't I? :(

Earlier this year I "celebrated" the first anniverary of my 29th birthday. It was not a joyous celebration. I have a slight prob with the whole getting older thing. I don't know what it is about hitting a milestone age but this one hit me hard.
I am not growing old gracefully. I am fighting it with all my might.
Just call me Joan Rivers...

Julie in Ohio said...

I want to share with you the wisdom my mother shared with me when I was younger. I used to be upset because all the really hot celebs were so much older than me. She assured me that once I get to be in my twenty's I would find that they will then be "so much younger" than me. It is the laws of nature...

Don't cha hate when mom is right?

ann said...

I'm 51. I've been noticing for quite some time, perhaps since turning 40, that the guys who turn my head tend to be 10 years younger than me. Younger than that and they do look like kids--plus we have nothing to talk about (and talking is sometimes the most erotic activity there is). My age and older, they look like grampa--and who needs that?!

When I'm feeling well and have done a good job with the makeup ;) people tell me I look younger than my age. But either way, I'm happy with where I'm at now, and especially grateful that we live in a time when 50 and 60 and on...can be healthy and sexy.