When her publicist from HarperCollins asked if I was interested in featuring Samara O'Shea's upcoming release, "For the Love of Letters: A 21st-Century Guide to the Art of Letter Writing from the Elegant to the Erotic," I thought I'd do better, I'd invite her to speak to you. What better place for an expert in the art of written communication of emotions to visit than a place where we work so hard to say it just exactly right, and always with a smile?
Today, the founder of LetterLover.net treats us to a marvelous GuestBlog about what men really have on their minds at Valentine's Day. Please offer Samara -- a beautiful name for a beautiful woman, no? -- a warm buongiorno...
Do Men Like Receiving Love Letters as Much as Women?
In my experience yes, but they just don’t know it. Most men don’t dream of receiving long, passionate love letters the way that women do, but everyone needs occasional reassurance from their lover that they’re considered attractive and appreciated all around. If this admission comes in letter form then men can certainly appreciate it as much as women.
In the early days of my letter-writing service (LetterLover.net) most of my customers were women all wanting to write a love letter “he’ll never forget.” One woman’s husband told her all he wanted for Valentine’s Day was a written admission of her love. In my opinion, that was a lot of pressure to put on her, but we did end up writing something that he was very happy with and moved by. In that instance the guy knew what was coming, but you can usually catch a man completely off guard by writing him a love letter. I believe any romantic gesture is heightened when the element of surprise is involved, so most love letters for men are guaranteed to have that affect—even if they come on Valentine’s Day. A letter of any length can be effective. A long confession of your love or a medium-length missive where you simply list all the ways he turns you on. Even something short, quickly scribbled, and left on the pillow such as “You’re so hot!” is sure to make him smile.
A few years ago I wrote a powerful (or so I thought) love letter to a man I was dating. I never heard from him after that. Ouch! As I was writing my first book I had to get in touch with him to ask his permission to reprint an e-mail he had written me. In his response he said I could use what he wrote and, “You must include the letter that you wrote to me a while back. It was the nicest, sexiest, sweetest, and most erotic letter someone has ever given me. I still have it. I don’t think I could ever throw it away.” This response made me very happy, even if it came two years late. If you are currently involved with or married to your object of desire then their response of appreciation is bound to come much sooner.
How have the men in your life reacted to love letters?
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