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Eloisa James is a mom, university prof, wife, and author of some of the best romance fiction written. But first and foremost, she's a smart and beautiful woman who today invites us to treat the special woman inside all of us to something wonderful this holiday season. Bellas, you know the drill...Buongiorno, Eloisa!
Decembers tend to pass in a whirl of wrapping paper and exhaustion—a month spent creating beautiful memories for other people, most of whom are under the age of consent and are perfectly happy chewing on squeaky toys.
My point is that we often forget something: ourselves. What would make you really happy? As a woman?
My answer is to feel loved. And my prescription is love yourself this holiday. When your children look back over their memories, they'll see it in a whirl of joy, presents, and love. But you're the key to that. The only way you can be the calm center at the heart of their joy is if you yourself are joyful. And the only way you can be joyful is if you are happy with yourself.
Recipe for Self Love
Lingerie. Buy something and wear it under your sweatshirt. The crucial point: you're not doing this for your partner, but for yourself.
Toes. A winter pedicure is delicious, partly because it's a secret known only to you (and perhaps the man you deem lucky enough to kiss your coral pink toes).
Time. That's the main gift you have to give yourself: time. Put on some music, get into the bathtub, and read. I even have suggested reading material: my latest, Pleasure for Pleasure. My heroine, Josie, is plump and thinks she's unattractive as a result. Plus she has the wrong undergarments: a corset so tight that she gets labeled with the hideous nickname, The Scottish Sausage.
It's my hope that reading how Josie discovers the art of self-love, and how she concurrently accepts the fact that her husband adores her figure exactly as it is – besides thinking she's the funniest, most wonderful woman in the world – will help you find yourself in that most wonderful of places as well-- a joyful, accepted calm still center: you, in the best Christmas season of your life.
Elizabeth Bevarly Tomorrow,
Tues Dec 12 on Squawk Radio Week + a Day
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